It's the middle of May 2017, and reading through Social Media, speaking with people and watching people interact, I find my brain screaming "We need a Social Attitude Adjustment"!
We as people have moved to tearing down, degrading, assuming the worst and over all despising people because they don't believe what we believe, see things the way we see them or bow down to their way of thinking. If your not a bully then your bullied. If your not someones kind of right, your wrong. If you have a different view, thought or intention then you are the enemy. WE NEED TO STOP!
We need to Adjust our Attitude and here is why....
From a practical point of view. Nothing is gained by assuming the worst in peoples intentions. You may from time to time avoid an issue, but most people don't have malicious intentions, so when you assume they do you create a drama that flares like a sun burst! Recognizing bad intentions and steering away from them is always wise, but assuming the negative without actually knowing hurts everyone.
From a relationship point of view. If your intention is to never have relationships with people then by all means assuming people are trying to hurt or degrade you will make sure no one stays within a mile radius of you. If you WANT relationships with other humane beings you have to remember that how they communicate, what they feel, their life path to date, loves and passions all come thru when they feel intensely about something. Assuming that, while the presentation and be intense, the thoughts are with the hope of understand and communications ideas, thoughts, opinions and feelings so they are able to grow in the relationship. ( did you mind just explode?)
From a Social point of view. This one is kind of easy. Socially, everything is very much at the surface, so assuming that people have the best of intentions instead of the worst simply allows you to be the kind loving person you are ( or want to be), and so will be perceived that way. If you allow others to change that in you then it reflects on YOU. You control how you perceive and interact with people, don't let them control you.
And finally from a personal health point of view.... this might be the most important one to consider. Physical, mental and spiritual health are all tied to how you allow people to treat you, but more importantly how YOU treat people and receive what people send your way. The Blunt truth is that the more you insist on seeing the good in people and their intentions, the healthier it is for you. If others intentions are ill intended then simply moving away from those people is probably the best option, because seriously, how many times has full on confrontation's really gained anyone anything other than an ulcer, heart attack or stress!!!
Adjust Your attitude and you will find that you have a "Socially Savvy Attitude" that will draw people to you not repel them from you.
As I always say, "Make Everything better Because You were there!"
Tuesday, April 11, 2017
We wake up each day with a boat load of things to get done, people to see, relationships to start, build and even end, and most of the time we end the day realizing we have been running crazy and the day was a blur. It seems that only when strong emotions are triggered do we stop to take notice and usually those strong emotions are negative. Someone has irritated us, mistreated us or through their lack of awareness let us slip thru the cracks. This poses a problem if we are to create a more positive culture. We have to become aware. But how do we do that? How do we change our "Status Quo"
Think about this for a moment. All the businesses…. restaurants, lounges, department stores, repair shops, construction companies, postal services………. All the business associates, mechanics, grocery clerks, sales associates, wait staff, garbage men and customer service people that make our lives easier and nicer on a day to day or visit to visit basis. How often do you let them know you appreciate what they do? Do you just expect it to be fab every time? Now what if you stopped and said something positive "Every" time? Think about it.
We all need that positive reinforcement that what we are doing is making a difference in someone’s lives so someone needs to be the catalyst for this……will it be you? Take time over the next 7 days to look the people in the eye that serve you and say “thank you”. Follow up with a Review on Google or Yelp, a customer service letter or comments to their manager. If you received a swag bag at an event, goto the event Host's page and thank them! Hyperlink your favorite swag sponsor's and thank them too! Best is to commit it to digital or physical writting's so they can see it over and over again, to remind them that what they do makes a difference, and so that others may know what their strength are as well.
1 week to focus on the positive…… I wonder what will become of it…….
And Don't forget to #Apositivedent
And Don't forget to #Apositivedent