Thursday, December 22, 2011

A Socially Savvy end to the Year

As the year comes to a close we typically write off the last 2 weeks in hectic running around preparing for Christmas and New Years Eve.  This year I suggest trying to take some time to push for one more goal instead of waiting until the 2nd week of the New Year to start your Resolutions, Revelations or Revitalizations.  Stop for a moment and look around.  See the sky, the city in which you live, the home you have made for yourself, the friends you have and the work you do and celebrate what you have accomplished even if it is just maintaining or even starting over.  Make your new goals from a place of recognition instead of a place of desperation and see what falls into place well before the New Year Begins!  Wishing you the Best with Hope in your Heart and Success in your Future!

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Socially Savvy Social Media for Dummy’s ~ Social Media Rules of engagement

     Ok……. Now I am ticked off!  Really?!?!?!  I have to write a blog on what should be common sense and basic curtesy?!?!?  FINE!  Here it is!
            Let’s look at the facts:  Social Media is an extension of who we are in a virtual world.  Where in the History of mankind did it ever say that just because you don’t see the person in front of you that it is okay to break every cardinal rule of curtsey, grace, social acceptance and just down right common sense?????  Am I missing something here?  Has Bart Simson and South Park really tweaked our perspective so dramatically that we cannot use our God give Brains to figure out what should and should not be acceptable?!?!? Apparently NOT – So Here is the Starter edition for Socially Savvy’s Social Media for Dummy’s!
1.)   If it’s not YOUR page – don’t post your agenda, link your business or promote your event WITH OUT ASKING FIRST on someone else’s page, blog or event!!! 
2.)   If it’s not your Picture, don’t post your agenda, link your business or promote your event with out asking first on the comment’s!
3.)   DO NOT use pictures to manipulate – tagging me in a picture I am CLEARLY not in, makes you look like an indigent….
4.)   Don’t complain about how people treat you on facebook if you don’t expect respect!  Swearing, being vulgar and posting lude pictures just proves you have no class, so don’t complain when someone calls you on it
5.)   Do not invite people to be part of a group they don’t fit in – i.e. – married people to a singles group
6.)   Do not forget that something posted can be retied!   Be aware!
7.)   Treat social media contact as you would a well-respected public figure or the president. 
8.)   Be positive in your interactions
9.)   Be aware of marital status when engaging in conversations
10.) Be considerate when posting opinions – if you want to keep friends
11.) If your account get’s hacked, message everyone and let them know!  They may not know you well enough yet to know that your not a low life sleeze after they have been flashed with a disturbing picture.
12.)  Understand the actual definitions of the words you are using – in a virtual world people only have the words in front of them so know what you mean and mean what you say.
13.) Don't spread Gossip...... you usually end up with egg on your face                  
Some things to consider when posting –
1.)   Be like Thumper….. If you don’t have anything nice to say……. Don’t say anything at all!!!  Don’t be a part of the virtual verbal vomit circling the globe! 
2.)   Being Politically correct was a kick back to the 60’s and the peace love and joy feeling of “Hey man, everyone is cool”…… It didn’t work then and it’s not working now – If your not willing to stand up and fight for what you believe in, sit down, shut up and stay out of the way
I will be adding to this as new things come up!

Monday, December 12, 2011

Socially Savvy Listening

This Holiday season I have spent a lot of time watching and listening to people.  The Happy ones, the sad ones, the content and the discontent.  And one of the things I notices when they interacted talking with others was the difference between forming and opinion or judgment on what other’s were saying or just listening. 
            Let me explain.  With our interactions with each human being we cross, our minds make decisions on what passes between us…. we form opinions, make judgments, size up and draw conclusions bases on what people say.  It is when you don’t control your mind on these actions that you can do the most harm to yourself and your relationships.  We as a culture need to learn to “Listen” again. 

To Listen: give one's attention to a sound
• Make an effort to hear something; be alert and ready to hear something

This part of the definition I think gets so lost in our current state of culture.  To truly listen you have to try, and to try you can’t be busy forming opinions, judging or anything else while people are talking.  Quiet your mind and really hear the people you are taking precious moment’s of your life to interact with.  Then when they are done, take a moment and if it is appropriate, share how you feel too.  It is a different approach than putting forth your opinion or judgment a part of the way into a conversation.  Give people the floor; hear what they have to say and breath.  Sometimes it isn’t necessary for you to even have an opinion and recognizing this can help keep you from giving yourself ulcers and being left out of conversations.  Celebrate listening this season and see where it puts you. 

Friday, December 9, 2011

What are your Ethics and morals?

Being socially savvy is more than just knowing how to act in public… it is knowing who you are.  What are your ethic’s and morals? 
         Before you get your panties all in a bunch this is not about challenging who you are but rather challenging “do you know what you believe”?
         But I jump ahead, so lets start with definitions; 
Ethic: a set of moral principles, esp. ones relating to or affirming a specified group, field, or form of conduct 

Moral Adjective concerned with the principles of right and wrong behavior and the goodness or badness of human character.
concerned with or adhering to the code of interpersonal behavior that is considered right or acceptable in a particular society
holding or manifesting high principles for proper conduct derived from or based on ethical principles or a sense of these

1 a lesson, esp. one concerning what is right or prudent, that can be derived from a story, a piece of information, or an experience
 2 ( morals) a person's standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do standards of behavior that are considered good or acceptable
You can be an ethical person without necessarily being a moral one, since ethical implies conformity with a code of fair and honest behavior, particularly in business or in a profession, while moral refers to generally accepted standards of goodness and rightness in character and conduct.  In the same way, you can be honorable without necessarily being virtuous, since honorable suggests dealing with others in a decent and ethical manner, while virtuous implies the possession of moral excellence in
Righteous is similar in meaning to virtuous but also implies freedom from guilt or concerned with or adhering to the code of interpersonal behavior that is considered right or acceptable in a particular society :
holding or manifesting high principles for proper conduct :
derived from or based on ethical principles or a sense of these :
examining the nature of ethics and the foundations of good and bad character and conduct —especially sexual conduct
So now that you know the actual definitions….. who and what are you?  How far will you push the mark?  What will you sacrifice to meet and end? 
         Consider this – knowing who you are and what you stand for gives you a strength over those that float back and forth from one person’s belief’s to another’s.  It may not be widely accepted, but knowing what you stand for gives you the strength to fight for what you want in life.  Define who and what you are and watch what happens….

Monday, December 5, 2011

Unique Gift Idea's for People who have everything!

This is the time of year when we are in the mood to give!  But what happens when the person you want to Give to has EVERYTHING they could ever need and want???  Well, you get creative!  Everyweek we will be adding to the list so check back often!  Here are some Fun Options for Gifts:
1.) Delille Cellars Harrison Hill has an amazing limited release Wine that comes from the Grapes of the 2nd oldest vines in Washington State!
2.) Corks & Canvas Event - Uncork your creativity while you enjoy wine and channeling your inner Van Gogh!
3.) Chocolate Shop Wine - A unique Dessert wine that can take you back to your childhood with a fun flavor of tootsie roll!
4.) Create an event - find out some childhood memory or fun and recreate it in a journey with them.
5.) Take a beer or wine making class - that can create something new!

Question's that tantilize....

1.) Do you decide what you risk or happen by risk?
2.) Do you choose your friends or friend people around life choices?
3.) Do you know what drives you or let others drive for you?
4.) Do you set a ridged course or float on your journey peacefully with the wind. 
5.) Do you Entice or Antagonize when you speak?
6.) Do you know if your the problem or the solution at any given time?