5 Fantastically Socially Savvy Gift's of Time

     These day's people are just tired of getting a bunch of "stuff" they don't need, not to mention we don't have the extra money to spend, so here are some fab gifts you can write up and package pretty to give away that will mean SOOO much more that that pair of slippers or a scarf!  

     1.) "The Project Piece" Bring over your favorite music, a bottle of wine and help your friend tackle that "Project" they have been wanting to do!  Dedicate a full 8 hours of time if you can to make sure you can help them from start to finish!

     2.) "The Garage Gladiator" - So many of us have garages full of boxes we just don't have time to get thru and most of it is stuff we can get rid of!  This year offer to give your friends a day to help do just that.  Bring boxes you can pick up free from the liquor store for sorting and then finish by driving the items they are getting rid of to the local donation center!

     3.) "A Day in your Shoes" Do you have a friend that is the opposite of you?  They do things you just don't understand?  Well, offer to walk a day in their shoes with them and try something new.  Maybe it's fishing, hiking, painting, but make it something that they have everything you need  but it is just missing you.  One of the coolest things we can do is show an interest in peoples lives that they hold dear to them and ask to share with them.

     4.)"The Charity Cheerleader" If there is one thing that people can never get enough help with it is charity work, so tell your friend that you will go with them to their next charity event they are helping at and work it with them!  You may see a new side to them and I know it will make the event even better all the way around!

     5.) "Eat & be Merry" Everyone eats dinner, so why not set up with a close family preparing, eating and cleaning up dinner together!  The food can be simple and it is money you are spending anyway, the only addition cost would be some fuel money!  Make the ordinary extraordinary!

Have a Socially Savvy week everyone and make every event Better because you were there!

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Why FEAR is Socially Savvy

    It has been very interesting over the last few months to see the word Fear put out there and how it is used.  Most people are threatened and paralyzed by fears but there are those few that step back, detach from the emotion fear brings and find success.  So how do you do that?  Well here is my perspective on doing just that.
    Fear is the illusion of everything that could go wrong but doesn't need to.  It gives us a hyper link into what to avoid.  It is not set in stone, nor does it hold any control over us.  One of the most amazing definitions of fear i have ever heard came from the Movie After Earth ~
“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.”  Will Smith
    So with that said, how do we use Fear as a Hyper link to a successful future? We look at Fear as a warning sign if you will.  When you see a sign ahead that says "danger, no shoulder" do we drive off the road or simply pay a bit more attention?  When we see a fire engine and smoke, do we douse ourselves with water or look around to make sure the fire can't spread?  Now onto a more personal perspectives….. When you see a handsome guy or beautiful girl across the room do you hang your head and tell yourself they are out of your class or do you put your best smile on and go for it?  I got you there didn't I!  So what is they key?  Why is it the more personal of an impact something has we hold tighter to the fear instead of celebrating the possibility of success?  Because we have learned to Fear NO, above all.  We are afraid of rejection instead of learning from it and becoming stronger.  It boils down to this…..EVERYTHING we do is a choice and EVERYTHING we do has the possibility of success and failure.  Letting Fear TELL you you will fail instead of using fear to know what to avoid is the key in my eyes.  Analyze, decide and act.  Let life do the rest.  What are a few mistakes to a Life full of fears unrealized because you didn't let it stop you.
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Do you know what your asking for?

    I can't tell you how many times i hear people asking for things with no thought of why they should be entitled to ask let alone expect to receive it.  So the question came about in my mind, "Do people know what they are asking for?  Do they know what it is costing the people they are asking?"
Here is a fine example
    It's time for homecoming.  All the girls want to look their best.  They want to feel special.  Most don't now what they are doing, so what do they do?  They call their local cosmetic departments and want to book make up applications with them.  And most expect to get it for free.  I mean that's what they are there for right?  To do make up applications, so why not do one on you?  WRONG!  Let's define these peoples job.  These are sales people.  By definition, that means they are educated to sell.  That means their pay, their livelihood is connected to how much they can sell, which means they are connected to a goal, and if they can't meet that goal they lose their job.  So, back to the make-up thing.  They are educated and trained to apply make up to……listen carefully….HELP YOU CHOSE THE MAKEUP YOU NEED TO BUY!  Now it is in very poor form to actually call up to make an appointment and WHINE about having to purchase a minimum amount!  Especially when the min amount they are asking for actually puts them well below what they are expected to sell an hour.  Let me further explain:
    If an average sales persons goal is $200 to sell per hour and they book a makeup appointment every half an hour and you only intend on purchasing the min $50 they are asking then they are $100 per hour behind their goal each hour.  And why do you care you ask?  BECAUSE if you keep abusing the system they won't be there to help you or do your makeup when you PLAN to purchase properly!!!!  All the GOOD ones will quit and goto an industry where people can't get their time for free! 
    How about we do this.  You work in an office?  How about you work for free for an hour or two a day.  I mean really.  We all have families, all have dreams and goals and all of those things are tied to being able to afford them.  So seriously THINK about what you are asking for and go ahead and practice what you preach….If you expect to get paid for your time, then pay others for theirs.  STOP THE ENTITLED ATTITUDE.

Savvy Conversation.....What is attractive

Savvy Conversation

    Is your conversation attractive or unattractive

     I spent the last several weeks watching how people converse with each other and found that there are definitely conversation's that are unattractive…. whether it be a spouse, romantic interest, best friend or co-worker, with the wrong conversation you can send people running for the hills!  Here are some sure fire repellants!

Criticizing people.  It comes as no surprise that this is a turn off.  The actual speaking of the worlds that are critical contorts your face into unattractive looks!

Debasing yourself.  Self pity and self loathing don't bring people in, they repeal at the speed of sound.  You will find you are useful to no one if you can't find any worth in your self

Whining or complaining.  What can one say about this that the words them selves don't explain? 

Speaking on what you "should" have gotten.  This tells people you are of the "entitled" generation and focus on the past instead of moving into the future.  The past is gone…..try to let go.

Talking about what you "don't" have.  EVERYBODY has things they don't have, so why think that what YOU don't have is of any interest to anyone?

Talking about what other's have that they don't deserve.  The levels of unattractive this brings out are off the charts!  If you have not walked in someone's shoes you cannot even begin to judge whether they deserve something or not.  And even if you could and even if they don't deserve it, it changes nothing.

If you are ever wanting to go face to face with your demon's, stand in front of a mirror and voice to yourself anyone of these above topics and see how your face contorts and reflects.  Then speak to yourself in the mirror of beauty, empowerment, love, and friendship and see how the face changes and reflects…..

What is attractive?  You Decide, but here are some places to start….

Talk of Future Hopes and Dream
Talk of Friendship
Talk of Love
Talk of Empowerment & Encouragement
Talk of Art
Talk of the Beautiful things in Life

After all, there is garbage and waste everywhere, but we usually tend to put it IN the garbage can, not take it out and display it….

Have a Socially Savvy Week and Make every Event Better Because you were There! Take a listen to our show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sociallysavvy